The Tasks of the Dead and the Earth
It may be that certain deceased “seek out” certain people precisely because they are open.

It may be that certain deceased “seek out” certain people precisely because they are open.
One can recall how Steiner describes how the dead, in certain periods after death, are united with spiritual beings in shaping the earth, through wind, rain, cloud formations, warmth, etc, causing erosion and modifications of the earthly landscapes. Their activity becomes elemental, a co-working in the very etheric and physical life of Earth. This is one way the world is prepared and transformed so that it is not identical when the souls return for a new incarnation.
This means: the dead are not absent from Earth. They are woven into its life, just not in the same mode we are.
Steiner also gave many examples where the dead return to earthly environments that had significance to them. He even said: we can sense the dead in places where they poured in deep intentions, particularly where community, artistry, or destiny was woven.
So yes, indeed, it could be that the dead “come and meet” us at certain places, some old building, or in the general landscape, at special spots, where certain events occurred — but not as ghosts in the folkloric sense. More as a continuing echo of some of their striving, or of their ordeal and difficulties, which can be encountered if someone is receptive to it in the right way.
The dead do not just “wander at will” in the earthly sense. Their movement is patterned by their development stages, by their connections with spiritual hierarchies, and by the ties of destiny (karmic bonds) they still hold with living human beings. However, Steiner also said: whenever the living truly think of the dead with love or intention, the dead are drawn near. Thus the bond is real, a connection can be made, and exchanges can happen. And even, each time we "think" of a dead person we know, it actually means the dead person is present in that moment, and seeks a contact, for a certain reason.
Also, in the November customs (All Souls’ tide, or in India during Pitru Paksha) the fact is reflected that in certain yearly rhythms, the “veil” is thinner and such encounters are more accessible. Especially in November, in the Northern Hemisphere, when indeed a death process sets in within outer nature. This time of the year only seems dead, while in fact the outer world diminishes, its life withdraw, leaving more space for the inner world to step into the foreground..
One can, especially sensitive people in that sense, perceive a deceased, more or less clearly, in slight image-form “wanting to show one around” in places where indeed significant events and circumstances took place. This is deeply consistent with the fact that a place can still resonate after a person has passed into the afterlife, such as for instance:
What lives in such cases is both light and shadow: the deceased may have brought progress, helped humanity along in a specific area, yet also possibly entanglement with forces (an unhealthy lifestyle shortening the life just led, exhaustion, unresolved longings, perhaps also the astrality carried in certain activities). These places where an unbalance can be sensed are often the ones where the dead linger — not out of malice, but because something remains unfinished.
It is indeed so that the dead do not automatically have full insight into their past deeds. Much is only gradually revealed to them, often with pain, in the encounter with spiritual beings who show them the truth. But if there is not enough light from the earthly side — not enough recognition or balance — the preparation for a next incarnation can be impeded, or at least delayed.
This is why Steiner stressed: the living can help the dead. Not by “fixing” them, but by perceiving truthfully, remembering with warmth, and offering spiritual thoughts, insights and prayers. This gives them forces to see themselves more clearly and to configure the next life with more freedom.
It may be that certain deceased “seek out” certain people precisely because they are open — and because they could complete something. Not by necessarily doing something specific or in particular, but by acknowledging the truth of their striving and limits. That recognition itself lightens the burden in the afterlife. Other people’s presence at such a visit may keep from going deeper into the encounter — but a seed and a beginning for transformation, both for the deceased, and for the one sensible enough to lend a hand, can be planted.